Online dating is an exciting and yet tricky prospect for a lot of people. In the absence of any help in finding a like-minded partner, we often turn to friends for advice. The problem here is, dating is all about matching personalities and what works for your friend may not work for you. Then there is the problem of building an online profile. You may have a great personality but how do you make an impression when you are not good with words? Admittedly, there is no one rule that works all the time for everyone but there are some broad guidelines that can help you navigate through the confusing world of online dating and meet like-minded singles.
Have realistic expectations
Understand that you will not find a person who exactly matches all your preferences and personality. Besides, where is the fun in meeting a personality twin? Focus on what kind of relationship you want and what qualities you admire the most in people. Adding these details to your profile will also save you from bad dates. Also, avoid personality claims like “I am fun/ I love hanging out with friends/ I am an optimist”. Who doesn’t like to think of themselves that way?
Remember, do not agree to meet someone just by looking at their photos. Some people do not photograph well and still they have a good personality while others just photograph well. The same rule applies to you. Remove those photos where you have sunglasses on, delete group photos taken during fraternity night parties and pick one where you look pleasant in regular light.
Keep it simple
Nobody enjoys reading a 500-word bio on what you think about yourself. Keep a short and simple bio on your dating profile. If you still aren’t sure about how to do that, read it out to yourself and decide honestly if that description should go up on the profile. Also, do not use sentences like “I am not good at writing this kind of stuff, so my friend is doing this for me”. What it really says that you are not serious about dating and probably do not have a lot of confidence in yourself.
Keep it positive
Whether you are writing a profile or meeting someone on a date, try to maintain positive conversations. Recalling any negative experience with your ex or previous dates is a strict no-no. Also, while modesty is a virtue, continuous self-criticism is a bad idea during a date. It reflects poorly on your personality and bores the date. Show that you are truly interested in meeting someone interesting and are confident enough to wait for the right person.
Give people time to respond
When you send an interest to someone on a dating website, wait for at least 24 hours for them to respond. If they don’t, do not take it as a comment on your personality. Similarly, if you have gone out with someone, it is polite to call/ text them the next day to decide if you both want to see each other again. If they haven’t responded, give them a day before moving on.
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